That can involve joining meetup groups and then actually attending them. Things will pop up, from the local LGBT bar and Pride events, to LGBT community centers and meetup groups. If you need to, bring friends to push you past your shyness and be your Wing’Maam. She’ll tell you things like she’s a nut about being on time or that she never keeps her commitments and always runs late because she overbooks.And remember this is when you can wear one of the great outfits you’ve already put together. Pay attention to the details of what she shares with you.The most beautiful part of a relationship is the beginning. It doesn’t matter how much that dildo cost — get a new one for your new girlfriend. It’s all about making your new girlfriend feel really loved.That feel-good period when you’re first going out, liking each other, can’t wait to see each other, sharing your lives and history, and immersed in the wonderful feeling of infatuation that could turn into long-lasting love. I think they have a definite place in a fun sex life, but when you start a new relationship, it’s out with the old and in with new… Online dating is great, but it’s only one way to meet single women.You’ve got to get a plan together to get the hell out of the house and be seen. Get online and google the lesbian scene in your city or the nearest big city to you. Women need to know you’re free, ready, and available, and part of that is being seen at events.If you’re meeting for the proverbial first date and it’s for coffee, find the most interesting, fun, and unique coffee shop in the city and meet there. Then repeat part of her story back and say something like “Tell me more…” And while she tells you these things, listen. Don’t say to yourself “It’ll be different with me…” because it won’t.Or find out how she likes her coffee, pick it up, and meet her in a beautiful park, public garden, or on a hiking trail. Figure out how you can make her feel special without going overboard. While you’re first getting to know each other, listen intently. You can learn so much in the early dating days if you’ll just listen more and talk less.
I’m so glad I’ve kept my pants on during any number of dating experiences. She’ll feel really good about being the only woman you’ve shared that toy with.When you wait to have sex until you’re both prepared to be monogamous, it creates a basis of trust that’s truly powerful for when things get bumpy down the road. Getting to the place where you’re prepared to use the term “girlfriend” about this woman means it’s time for sex and more sex.